Ten Things My Single Sisters Need To Remember


I found this just a few days ago when browsing through an old journal. When I read this, I was overcome. In many ways, this has helped me since to overcome a multitude of temptations.

I was sitting at a little rest stop in the middle of a wonderful bike trail near my home. [Rails For Trails—Tanglefoot Trail: http://www.traillink.com/trail/tanglefoot-trail.aspx%5D

While sitting in such a beautiful, peaceful place, I was trying to text and write in my journal all at once. I was thinking and praying as well. I said, “So, I found some ways to help me focus when it comes to guys”. And I proceeding to list off several important things. I decided to post them. These have been absolutely life changing for me. It has been almost a year since I wrote them down. Now, I believe I shall share them with you all (with editing), so that perhaps they may help you as much as they have helped me.—


1. What do you want in a guy?

—Modesty, a strong spiritual foundation, perhaps more maturity [spiritually] than me, firm hand [so that he can deal with my rebelliousness], leadership skills, practiced godliness.


2. So what ought he expect of you?

—Anything I expect of him, I should be willing to be and do myself. Of course, I must follow the womanly role rather than his firm hand and leadership skills, but I ought also to be modest and mature with a strong spiritual foundation.


3. Talk about relationships.

—I find it helpful to talk about godly men in my life. It sets my focus on what I’m really looking for. However, this is a case-by-case basis. There are times when it may be harmful to talk about them. But, overall, I find it helpful to see good qualities in certain men and think about if that ought to be one of your standards.


4. Determine in your heart not to give in!

—When you’re standing on the edge or halfway it’s much easier for you to fall. Determine not to go down that road!

5. Be honest with God.

—Prayer is essential. Be honest with God about how you feel and know that He hears you. Ask for strength.


6. Know Him.

—Know that God only wants the very best for you. If He is “depriving” you of something, it is only to give you something much greater. Also, look to God for examples of what sort of things to look for in a guy. But don’t expect your future husband to be perfect!


7. Consider your husband.

—Remember your husband and God and know that you want to be the best for them both, always putting God first. Consider how your husband and God would feel about your actions. We all have high expectations for our future spouse. But we often don’t think about what expectations our spouse might have for us. Be reasonable. You want to be the very best for your husband and you want to please God thoroughly.


8. Remember silence.

—Remember what a godly woman looks like and how you want to be that. More silence keeps more integrity. Besides, it’s the guy’s job to chase and pursue (as Christ does His bride) and the girl’s job to wait (as the Bride does for Christ). Wait for the guy that cares enough about you to pursue your heart. He should be the one coming to you, not the other way around.


9. Pray for wisdom.

—This is extremely important. Wisdom and discretion are a must to figure out the proper conduct for each situation…

10. Study the Word and seek God’s face.

—This should be a given regardless of relationships. It is only by His strength you can do anything, especially succeed in properly waiting for your husband! Don’t cut God off. In doing so, you cut off your strength.


“I pray that God will give me strength to pull strong all the way to and through the finish. God, help me.”




None of the pictures are mine. Many are random from the internet.

1. First picture is a screenshot from Joshua Aaron’s music video “My Beloved (Wedding Waltz)”.

2. Fifth picture (I Need…Jesus) was done by Philipp-JC on Deviantart— http://philipp-jc.deviantart.com/art/I-Need-You-Jesus-351486678

3. “Wisdom is the…” pic was done by ForHisPurpose on Deviantart— http://www.deviantart.com/art/Wisdom-Cry-514300750




1. Check out Joshua Aaron’s music video “Wedding Waltz” (also what the first picture is from): https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=EN3-gJHP_es

2. Are you a newly wed? Check out Blimeycow’s video to married couples: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=K6qqLIsCFiY

3. Check out “Virtue Makes You Beautiful” by Lone Peak Stake Young Men: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=oartIE7rKuM


4 thoughts on “Ten Things My Single Sisters Need To Remember

  1. Sanae.T says:

    Very judicious and insightful sentences for single ladies. I think that they contains many wisdom from author’s experience.Where there is culture of dating,many single girls are apt to try finding her boyfriend soon.And If they cannot,it often it make them down.Maybe they feel that because of lack of their charm,feel that they are inferior as ladies. I think this kind of thing has no relation with godly wedding.To have many boyfriends is not good training for future marriage.I hope your this article to be read by many young girls.

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    • Dearest Sanae-san,

      You are very right! And thank you. I agree. I rather dislike the principle of dating as it is. But, regardless, I think these things speak to all single ladies. And I love what you said:

      <To have many boyfriends is not good training for future marriage.

      So true! And I think if young ladies learned to wait, then their marriage would be happier. But the biggest thing is finding contentment in Christ. Have that, and there's no need to worry about anything, single or married! 🙂

      Your little sister,


  2. Kegan, thank you so much for the post. It was posted on May 18, the day of my birthday. I just turned 26. One of my friends got married couple months ago. To get married and have children is one of my strongest desires and longings. It got worse when my friends who are younger started to get married.
    Thank you so much for you prayers. This week I was able to share more Gospel with my Muslim classmate, I told him my testimony (brief version). He asked me to justify my faith–not in a simple answer, but to do research. He also asked me to send him answers via e-mail.
    In Christ your big sister,
    P.S. my email is irinaglazkova89@gmail.com

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    • Dearest Sister Irina,

      How wonderful! Happy belated birthday! I know it is hard. I am only sixteen, but I long so badly for marriage and kids….But these things have helped me and I hope that they help you as well!

      Oh! Yes! Have you looked up the resources I told you about previously? Also, a good place to go is CMI’s (Creation Ministries International) website: http://creation.com

      They have all kinds of resources on various topics defending the Christian faith. (they also seem to believe in women headcoverings. I’ve only seen it mentioned briefly once, but it seemed to support our view.) Their main topics seem to be more for atheists and agnostics, but they have things on taoists and such. If you go to the search bar and type in “Islam”, all kinds of resources will pop up! Two particular articles stuck out to me. I have not had time to read them yet but I will try to.
      1) http://creation.com/islam-and-worldview-the-big-picture


      I pray that God will move in this young muslim’s heart and turn him to the Truth, Jesus. 🙂 My prayers are with you!

      Your little sister,
      Kegan Cook


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